Thu, Dec 17

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What Keeps Us in the Shadow: Addressing Harm, Abuse, and Bullying in Metamour Relationships

Postponement of Metamour Abuse Discussion: see below

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What Keeps Us in the Shadow: Addressing Harm, Abuse, and Bullying in Metamour Relationships

Time & Location

Dec 17, 2020, 1:00 PM – 3:00 PM EST

Via Google Meet (link in RSVP)

About the event

Postponement of Metamour Abuse Discussion

On December 17th, the two of us (Sam Savage & Lee Harrington) were slated to lead two classes on “What Keeps Us in the Shadow: Addressing Harm, Abuse, and Bullying in Metamour Relationships.” After hard discussions, the two of us have agreed to postpone this class until when it can be run either in person, or when sourcing touch is an opportunity available to more attendees.

After our first of these discussions (this was intended to be a series of three discussions), Sam and I discussed that even for those of us whom these issues are years in the past, talking about any sort of trauma can bring feelings to the forefront. This can be especially true when pertaining to topics that an attendee may have never had a chance to talk about before, or concerning topics they have never had peers to connect with over. Niche polyamory topics thus effect both of these. Very few people who have experienced bullying, harm, or abuse between or from a partner’s partner have gotten to talk about these issues with others of such experience.

In this current time, there are many of us who cannot source touch as a tool for emotional regulation. Though there are a great many tools for seeking comfort or safety (including this fantastic way to examine Routes to Safety by Jake Ernst, MSW that we both recommend), touch can be an importan