Mon, Sep 28


Online via Google Meet

Naming the Shadows Part 1(earlier)

Addressing Abuse, Bullying, and Other Harms in Metamour Relationships

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Naming the Shadows Part 1(earlier)

Time & Location

Sep 28, 2020, 1:00 PM – 3:00 PM EDT

Online via Google Meet

About the event

**Note: This discussion is being offered twice in one day to provide access to individuals in different regions worldwide.**

Within consensual non-monogamous relationships a unique relationship exists - a partner’s other partner, aka “metamour.” Though the concepts of coercion, bullying, and emotional harm have the capacity to exist in a wide variety of relationships, this class will examine how they appear in unique or differently manifested ways within polyamorous (aka polyam) and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. These situations are often not noticed, not seen, or not believed by those directly involved in them, or by those experiencing the behaviors themselves due to these unique circumstances. We will examine a variety of relationship styles, maps, and frameworks, and how attendees have experienced these things in their own life as recipients or unconscious (or conscious) harm-doers. Finally, having named these shadows, we will gather and offer some resources for self awareness, education, restoration, and healing.

This three-part series of discussions focuses on and centers the individuals who have experienced or witnessed some form of harm within their metamour relationships. Beneath the drive to focus on ‘compersion’ and the positive/rewarding aspects of metamour relationships can hide harmful patterns carried over from dominant cultures of monogamy, whether from family of origin or prior relationships. The social pressure to validate non-monogamy as a healthy alternative can create further silence and shame when this happens.

As these can be difficult or challenging topics, please plan ahead for your best forms of self-care during and after this discussion. Though sharing these experiences may be therapeutic for some attendees, this discussion is not offered or built as a group therapy session. If you are a mandated reporter within your state or have other concerns about what may be disclosed and what to do with it, please contact Sam or Lee in advance as to how to best navigate your attendance of this discussion.

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The door will be “locked” to this event 10 minutes after start time.

This is a trust-based attendance fee structure. If you are more comfortable with a set fee, our suggested donation is $20, but trust yourself just as we trust you - if you are moved to contribute a different amount, feel free - no specific contribution is required for attendance. 

One third of all funds from this series are being donated to INCITE!, a netw